HOW DO YOU SAY ‘’PSYCHOLOGIST’’?

Recently I was invited by my granddaughter’s first grade class to give a brief ‘community helper’ presentation on my job and how it helps our communities. Of course, I readily accepted this invite as it seems my love quotient has grown exponentially since the grandchildren began appearing on the scene.  Now, what might I say to these 6 year olds about being a practicing psychologist? I thought if nothing else we might learn a new word, ‘psychology’ and its origin. I wrote on the blackboard in large letter the word psychology, then wrote down the meaning of ‘psyche’ and ‘ology’. I described to their seemingly interested and adorable faces that psyche is an old Greek word which means soul, spirit or breathe.  I shared that the word was also the name of a sister in an old Greek story, of which have had quite a bit of influence on our world still today. The story is a reminder that our individual souls are a gift we present for the good of this world.  It may be my own projection, but they seemed to understand and know this immediately. I went on to say that this gift is often lost, buried or hidden from us.  There were several nodding heads.  Sometimes we get stuck or find ourselves in trouble and need some help. I asked, “have you ever felt like you just don’t know what to do about a problem?”, nodding heads responded. The old story about psyche reminds us that it is often among our troubles that we find the gifts carried inside of us, and we may find the help we need at a particular time.  Not only we do we find our gift, but our gift has something very important to offer the community.   Each of us here in this classroom is a community helper, sometimes in very unexpected ways.  I then went on to define ‘ology’ as meaning ‘the study of’.   “A psychologist is someone who really studies and learns about peoples souls so that they may help them to discover the gifts they bring to the world, even when they are feeling stuck.”

A psychologist is someone who really studies and learns about peoples souls so that they may help them to discover the gifts they bring to the world, even when they are feeling stuck.

I am thankful to these children for helping me remember and define again, for myself just what it is a psychologist does.   This year marks the 33rd year I have been a ‘practicing’ psychologist.   A conservative estimate of the time I have spent in counseling, coaching, consultation with individuals, marriages, families and organizational teams is well above 40,000 hours.   An estimate of the time I have been carefully listening, connecting and building working alliances as the troubles of the soul pours out.  I have counseled those through deep despair, tragedy, addiction, confusion and frustration.   After engaging with 40,000 hours of laments, you might think I would have a sense of burn-out, fatigue and doubts about the human condition.   For me, the inverse is true.  My trust and belief in the capacity of people and organizations to find their ‘gifts’ for the world could not be higher.   It has been a gift to me to bear witness to the courage, commitment, perseverance, resilience and openness of people at odds with circumstance.   In the context of a trusting relationship, we can not only find our way through trouble, but will find and discover gifts we did not know we possessed.  The souls I have been entrusted to serve have certainly given me gifts and stories that extend to hope and resilience for others.   I am very grateful to be a psychologist that serves this purpose.